2006 10/04

Everyone’s Opinion

It amazes me the opinions and advice you are so freely given by others after you have a baby.  I’m convinced that this phenomenon does not stop after your first child.  Nor is it limited to children.  Isn’t it funny how we just freely give our advice to others, no matter what the topic or situation?

The reason I bring this up is because I have received advice, or rather approval/disapproval, over how and when I put Abbi to sleep.  Abbi is on a pretty regular sleep schedule:  She goes to bed at 7pm, wakes up for a brief feeding at 4am & goes back to sleep until 7:30am; 1st nap from 9am – noon; and then gets one or two 1-2 hour naps in the afternoon.  The times will vary and the length does vary depending on a lot of things, but it tends to stick close to that schedule. Some people commend me for the schedule and understand the reasons behind it; Others think it’s silly and that baby’s don’t need a schedule and it will only hurt them later.

The other topic of advice is on how we get Abbi to sleep.  There are two major methods of getting your baby to sleep — soothe them to sleep or let them cry it out until they fall asleep.  I know parents on both sides of the fence and I see pros & cons for each method.  I’m under the philosophy of “do what works for you and your baby.”  Personally, I practice the “soothe your baby to sleep” method.  We rock Abbi to sleep for most naps and every night before bed.  I’ve tried the “cry it out” method and it does not work for Abbi.  I have let her cry for an hour+ when she’s going down for a nap and she does not fall asleep.  I just can’t see letting my child fall asleep from pure exhaustion because she’s cried for hours.  Like I said, it works for some people, just not for us.

The interesting thing about all of this is discovering who is in support of what method.  I have been surprised more times that naught on the sleep issue.  The people who I thought would disapprove of me rocking Abbi to sleep all the time were actually in favor of this method and praised me for sticking to it.  Then there are the other people who I would have expected that they would agree with the soothing method, but are in favor of letting the baby cry herself to sleep.  They like to tell me that I’m just spoiling her.

Moral of the Story:  Everyone has their own opinions and that is all they are, OPINIONS.  And here is the definition of an opinion:
o – pin – ion:
A view or judgement formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge

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